What Waves Taught Me About the Benefits of Surrendering vs. Control
While on vacation at Myrtle Beach last week, I had a powerful insight.
I was in the ocean and it was quite rough—not my ideal beach experience but I was working with it.
As an island girl who never learned to swim (yes, I know), I was trying to protect myself from those ginormous waves that scared the living daylights out of me. I would turn around, jump, and brace myself for the wave smack (cause that’s what it felt like).
After a couple of days I thought, what if I didn’t brace myself, but instead surrendered to the waves’ power and strength? Perhaps by giving up “control,” I’d have a more enjoyable experience.
Surrendering to these bad boys was tough, but I gave it a shot. And guess what? It WAS better. The waves were going to be how the waves were going to be. How I responded to the waves was what I could control. And that response could come from a place of fear, control and survival or from a place of trust, yielding, and wisdom.
When I chose the latter response, the waves didn’t “smack” me at all. I just allowed myself to flow with the waves and it felt more like me and the waves were one.
I knew this experience was not just about how I approach waves, but how I approach every challenge in my life in general.
As a recovering high achiever who was used to DOING to get results, I have learned how to BE more frequently, so that results are not gotten by hustle and grind but by alignment and grace.
But I still sometimes go back to that controlling default mode of being with new challenges, because it was how I was conditioned to be.
My takeaway from the MB ocean experience is that I must be more mindful of how I respond to things that are unfamiliar, scary, or uncomfortable.
Because my response to these things determines the type of outcome I get.
This is true for you too.
Embracing Change with Surrender
What would it look like if you could bring tenderness to all the rough, tough places? To operate from a new playbook, one that allowed you to be more of who you truly are instead of pushing and forcing to get the outcomes you desire?
It’s not easy for most of us to release the reins of control and step into a new, gentler, more aligned way of being in a world that calls for constant performance, striving and results.
Often, we continue and keep going because we are so afraid of what will emerge if we do something different. The uncertainty, the unfamiliarity, the fear of the unknown, is real.
And it is also the fear that holds us back from God’s best for us. Because it requires trusting, surrendering, yielding to stuff we do not control.
“Change can be scary for it means surrendering to the unknown of being in the in between. To being not who you were and not quite who you’ll become. It requires a trust in the transformation.” Rebecca Campbell
I believe it’s time to bring more faith and trust into our lives. Because these times we’re living in are FULL of uncertainty, unprecedented events, and chaos. Right?
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